Safe Space

One of the biggest challenges in creating a great life, especially if you come from a traumatic background, is learning how to create a safe space for yourself. When you grow up surrounded by drama and people with drama fuelled lives it's easy to believe that that is normal. Violence, rage, manipulation and edginess can easily become what you are used to and especially when you yourself are part of that cycle it is super hard to get out of.

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Stress and chronic illness

Chronic illness is a bitch. I know this first hand.  As someone who has had anxiety and depression on and off for most of my adult life and Fibromyalgia for at least the last five, I know what it’s like to have chronic illness and chronic pain creep into your life, permeate your existence and literally change everything from the shoes you wear to how often you see other humans.  But there are things you can do that will really make a difference...

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Superwoman Syndrome: How to stop doing everything all the time

I used to suffer terribly with this.  My schedule was jam packed, I was working the equivalent of full time plus studying full time AND I was a single mother on top of that.  The candle burning at both ends, I would frequently fall apart under the weight of it all.  Little spack attacks.  I still remember throwing my chopping board across the room in a fit of over-exhausted rage.  I just couldn’t keep up.

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Self Talk

“I hate my hair. I hate my skin. I’m fat. I’m ugly. Nobody likes me. I can’t get anything right. I’ve stuffed up again. I’m a failure”. Notice a pattern? None of that stuff is measurable. Every single one of those statements will depend on my opinion more than an actual fact. What if I don’t suck, and it’s just my opinion that sucks? How do I NOT do this to myself?

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Confidence - 6 tips to getting a hold of it

Confidence is a slippery little sucker. It’s one of those things that has a chicken and egg type vibe to it. People with confidence DO things. Then, because they have experience, this experience gives them confidence… BUT how do you find confidence, or develop confidence when you don’t have it naturally, and how can you have it in an area that you have no experience in?Well, that's what we're covering today... ;)

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Listening (seek and you will find)

The truth is, this week, I am struggling.  It’s not a morbid, depressed and anxious type of struggle it’s more of a seeking, a searching for something I can’t seem to put my finger on.  I don’t know exactly how to put that into words, and it’s possible that this is something that happens almost every time I have some time off. 

Luckily I know what to do with this... 

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Creating Community

I wasn’t born with a brain for relationships - I grew up thinking that you were meant to keep everything to yourself, and I was told to never talk about what went on in my home.  I was taught not to trust people outside of my own family. As a result I think I was quite guarded, and isolated because my conversations were kept trivial and not very meaningful. I didn’t let people in.

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How to stop hating your life (and move into one that is empowered and inspired)

I know sometimes it’s hard. Sh*t happens. When it rains it pours, when one thing goes wrong it can very easily snowball into everything turning to crap.  You can lose your mojo.  You can feel stuck, powerless and miserable.  You can literally hate your life.  I’m not here to judge you for that. I know what it’s like. I’m here to tell you how you can turn it around, and how by doing so you can actually begin to create one that makes you feel inspired, empowered and that not only lights you up, but lights up those around you.

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Treat Yourself As IF... (One sure fire way to kick depression in the teeth

Depression is an awful thing.  It eats at your will to live. It eats at your ability to enjoy anything. It leaves you hollow and empty and feeling like you’re worthless.  The trouble is, some of the most effective ways to treat depression require you to really look after yourself.  Which, is quite an effort when you don’t feel worthy of looking after.  It’s really a catch 22.  If you don’t look after yourself, you won’t get better.  But finding the will to look after something you feel like is a waste of space and time and energy is almost impossible. So here’s the trick:

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Great Expectations - have you made them too great??

We need goals. Something to aspire to and road maps to get there. But what happens if we set our hopes too high? Forcing ourselves into burnout is only one of the consequences of setting our expectations too high… So how do we balance that?   I talk about balance a lot. I also talk to you guys about how I'm not actually super awesome - I'm far from it - I'm just learning too and often I'm learning my lessons out loud.

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Surviving the Shitstorm (Ep.35)

I think sometimes life can really wear you down. By life, I mean people. People can be right shits and have no idea the impact that they’re having on you.  Sometimes they know and even hope that their actions are tearing you apart. They deliberately try to create a shitstorm in your life and it can suck. The time we spend thinking about that, dwelling on it and letting it get to us can allow their actions and hurtful words drag us down, rendering us unable to move forward, stealing our joy.

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When The Going Gets Tough

Today I honestly can't think of anything worse than having to sit down and write a motivational post. If you want the truth, today I feel like crawling into the foetal position and crying until my throat bleeds. But, I still sit here and write and you know why? Because the truth is, we all feel like this sometimes. Regardless of our backgrounds, regardless of our history, our pain thresholds, what life throws at us, how easy or how hard we've got it - life sometimes throws us curve balls.

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Why I'm a weirdo and why I'm OK with that... 

People don’t want to hang out with the weirdo in case other people think they’re weird too. Let me let you in on a little secret. I’m a weirdo. I do things that plenty of people would never do. For a start I get up on a stage, in front of strangers and I tell my deepest darkest secrets. Who does that? That’s weird. It’s certainly not what the majority of people do. But you know what? …

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